7 Shades of love

Dear Friends,

"Love in the heart was not meant there to stay. Love is not love till you give it away". For love to be ever lasting and eternal every one should be aware of the different stages of love and know its significance. Following are the different phases through which you will travel in your love life and only those who pass it will have an endless love.

ATTRACTION

Attraction can be defined as something, which is more than friendship and is a step towards getting ready for a relationship. Now attraction is of two types:


a. Physical Attraction - happens when your body reacts to another person. Heart rate increases; temperature rises, palms get sweaty; stomach flutters; throat tightens; etc. This is what will tell you that you are ready for the first contact and also whether you are comfortable in the company of the other person.


b. Emotional Attraction - develops next if the circumstances are right. After being drawn to a person physically, you then begin to come closer. If you find you have things in common -- hobbies, ideologies, career, education, or some other common ground -- then an emotional attraction starts to form. Sometimes an emotional attraction can occur even when a physical attraction does not. And in this case, the bond will be stronger between the two who connect, since no preconceived notions based on physical appearance has occurred.


INTIMACY
Intimacy is something, which a person experiences when you learn to trust and believe your lover. It is a close association with another person of the deepest nature. You share you thoughts, feelings, and dreams. You feel free to discuss everything with this person and you are absolutely comfortable in his company. Thus intimacy develops gradually. If you can't establish intimacy with your partner, your relationship may work for a while, but is unlikely to endure throughout the years. Intimacy is actually the path to a true, healthy and beautiful relationship.


ROMANCE
Romance is the essence of a relationship. Without romance your love life will not exist. Romance is the true identity of your love. It brings out your true self and helps you be a better lover, husband and partner. Romance is a celebration of the life you live as part of a couple. It springs naturally and originates from within your heart. It makes you do things that you possibly couldn't have imagined to do otherwise. It shows you who you are and reminds you of the role you play in a relationship. Romance is not responsibility but it is caring about your responsibilities towards your lover and partner. Romance is the appreciation of two people who are celebrating the lucky coincidence that they found each other.

Two Ways to make People Like You
Principle 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.
A simple way to make a good impression.
The expression one wears on one's face if far more important than the clothes one wears on one's back. Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, " I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you." You must have a good time meeting people i f you expect them to have a good time meeting you. You don't feel like smiling? Then what? Two things. First, force yourself to smile. If you are alone, force yourself to whistle or hum a tune or sing. Act as if you were already happy, and that will tend to make you happy. "Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not." -William James. Happiness doesn't depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions. It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it. "There is nothing either good or bad," said Shakespeare, "but thinking makes it so." Your smile is a messenger of your good will. Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it. To someone who has seen a dozen people frown, scowl or turn their faces away, your smile is like the sun breaking through the clouds.


Principle 2: Smile.

If you don't do this, you are headed for trouble
The average person is more interested in his or her own name than all the other names on earth put together. Remember that name and call it easily, and you have paid a subtle and very effective compliment. But forget it or misspell it-and you have plac e yourself at a sharp disadvantage. Whenever you meet a new acquaintance, find out his or her complete name and some facts about his or her family, business or political opinions. Fix all these facts well in mind as part of the picture, and the next time you meet that person, even if it was a year later, you will be able to shake hands, inquire after the family, and ask about the hollyhocks in the backyard. Sometimes it is difficult to remember a name, particularly if it is hard to pronounce. Rather than even try to learn it, many people ignore it or call the person by an easy nickname. Most people don't remember names, for the simple reason that they don't take the time and energy necessary to concentrate and repeat and fix names indelibly in their minds. If you don't hear the name distinctly say excuse me I didn't get your name clearly. Then, if it is an unusual name, ask how it is spelled. Use the person's name several times in the conversation; try to associate it in your mind with the person's featur es, expression and general appearance. Then, when you are alone write the name down on a piece of paper, look at it, and concentrate on it, fix it securely in your mind, in this way you will gain an eye impression of the name as well as an ear impression.

Giornata 39 Serie B
Si Ayam Jago Kembali

Penantian selama delapan tahun itu berbuah manis. Jumat (8/5), para Pugliesi berpesta merayakan kembalinya tim kebanggaan mereka, Bari, ke pentas Serie A. Hebatnya lagi, I Galletti memastikan comeback tersebut tanpa harus bermain.

Ini sangat dimungkinkan mengingat Livorno, yang bermain hari itu, secara mengejutkan kalah 0-1 dari Triestina. Dengan menyisakan tiga pertandingan lagi, jarak 11 angka jelas sudah tidak mungkin terkejar.

Pesta langsung digelar. Berpusat di Piazza Cavalli, seluruh pemain yang masih harus berlaga esok harinya guna menghadapi Piacenza ikut larut dalam perayaan tersebut. Pesta kembang api dan konvoi ratusan kendaraan mewarnai selebrasi itu. Laga tandang itu sendiri berakhir imbang 2-2.

“Kami memang pantas meraih promosi ini karena telah mempertunjukkan sepak bola berkualitas. Sekarang kami akan menikmati pesta ini,” cetus Pelatih Antonio Conte seperti dilansir situs FootbalI Italia.

Promosi ini sebenarnya jauh dari perkiraan awal musim. Mulanya Conte hanya menargetkan posisi di papan tengah atau setidaknya play-off ke Serie A sebagai langkah awal. Maklum, sejak terdegradasi ke Serie B pada 2001, tim berjulukan I Galetti alias Si Ayam Jantan Muda ini lebih sering ditinggalkan pendukungnya karena kecewa dengan performa tim.

Bahkan sebagai bentuk protes, khususnya pada Presiden Vicenzo Mataresse, Stadion San Nicola, yang berkapasitas 58.428 tempat duduk, sering terlihat kosong.

“Kami memulai musim ini dengan target sederhana, yaitu menarik kembali publik ke tribun San Nicola dan mengembalikan antusiasme sepak bola di kota ini. Karena itu, kepastian promosi ke Serie A sangat luar biasa bagi tim dan juga Pugliesi (julukan masyarakat kota Bari),” ujar Conte.

Parma Ingin Menyusul

Tak hanya Bari, kekalahan Livorno itu juga membuat Parma semakin dekat ke Serie A. Kemenangan 2-0 atas Pisa membuat I Gialloblu mengoleksi 71 poin dan tinggal membutuhkan satu angka lagi untuk memastikan perolehannya tidak terkejar.

Satu-satunya alasan kenapa tim asuhan Franceso Guidolin ini tidak ikut naik kasta pekan ini adalah hasil duel head to head mereka dengan Livorno, yang seimbang, sementara selisih gol hanya bisa ditentukan di akhir musim.

“Kami belum bisa menyebut perjuangan musim ini sudah selesai, tapi memang sedikit lagi. Akan semakin indah jika kami bisa merebut puncak klasemen dari Bari,” kata Stefano Morrone, kapten tim di situs klub. (Anggun Pratama)




Belum Memilih Masa Depan

Sosok Antonio Conte bisa dibilang menjadi pihak yang paling bertanggung jawab atas kembalinya Bari ke Serie A. Sejak menjabat sebagai pelatih pada Desember 2007, tim Italia Selatan ini menjelma menjadi tim kuat.

Bayangkan, saat baru tiba, Jean-Francois Gillet dkk., yang berada di zona maut, dibawa finis di peringkat 11 pada akhir musim. Prestasi ini tentu termasuk bagus bagi pelatih yang sebelumnya hanya memiliki pengalaman menangani Arezzo pada musim 2006/07 dan menjadi asisten Luigi De Canio di Siena (05/06).

Diawal masa tugasnya, kehadiran Conte ternyata ditolak oleh tifosi. Wajar karena pria berusia 39 tahun ini kelahiran Lecce, yang merupakan rival berat Bari di region Puglia. Meski begitu, ia berhasil meyakinkan tifosi dengan kinerja tim di lapangan.

Sinerginya dengan Presiden Vicenzo Matarrese dan Direktur Olah Raga Giorgio Perinetti juga berbuah positif. Kejelian memilih pemain yang sesuai dengan kebutuhan membuatnya sangat disukai petinggi klub.

Nama pemain seperti Stefano Guberti, Vitali Kutuzov, atau Paulo Vitor Baretto didatangkan dengan harga murah tapi berkontribusi besar untuk tim.

Tak mengherankan dengan prestasi itu kini namanya mulai dikaitkan dengan sejumlah klub Serie A. Juventus disebut sebagai tim yang paling ngebet.

“Sekarang kami harus menikmati momen luar biasa ini. Untuk urusan pindah klub, kita lihat saja apa yang terjadi musim depan,” ucap kapten Juve pada 1996-2001 ini pada Channel4. (gun)


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Giornata 35 Serie A
Minggu Depan Inter Juara!

Kegagalan Inter mengalahkan Chievo di giornata 35, Minggu (10/5), membuat La Beneamata harus menunda pesta juara. Tapi, I Nerazzurri tidak perlu khawatir. Penundaan itu tampaknya hanya akan berlangsung satu pekan.

Inter tadinya bisa memastikan diri meraih scudetto akhir pekan ini. Syaratnya mereka menang melawan Chievo, sementara Milan kalah dari Juventus. Prakiraan itu berantakan setelah Inter cuma mendapatkan hasil seri 2-2 di Marc'Antonio Bentegodi.

Pesta juara harus ditunda, bahkan ada kemungkinan persaingan scudetto bakal terus berlanjut sampai giornata 37 atau 38 karena Milan masih akan menjamu Juventus. Ada peluang jarak antara I Nerazzurri dan I Rossoneri terpangkas menjadi hanya lima angka.

Dewi fortuna menolong Inter. Milan dan Juventus ternyata juga membagi hasil imbang 1-1. Alhasil, selisih poin La Beneamata dan Il Diavolo Rosso tetap seperti sebelum giornata 35, yaitu tujuh angka.

Dengan Serie A tinggal menyisakan tiga partai, Inter akan dipastikan menjadi juara minggu depan asal mereka tidak mendapatkan hasil yang lebih jelek daripada Milan. Skenario terburuk buat Inter kelihatannya sulit menjadi kenyataan.

I Nerazzurri hanya menjamu Siena. Sementara itu, Milan bertandang ke rumah Udinese, tim yang sedang on-fire dengan raihan lima kemenangan beruntun. Boleh jadi justru I Rossoneri yang akan tersandung.

Juara di Meazza

Inter tidak akan terlalu kecewa batal berpesta scudetto pekan ini. Selain kemungkinan hanya tertunda satu minggu, I Nerazzurri juga malah memiliki kesempatan untuk merayakan raihan gelar ke-17 mereka di depan publik sendiri.

"Nasib kami sepenuhnya berada di tangan sendiri. Kami masih memiliki dua partai kandang sehingga masa depan tim ini terlihat sangat positif," kata allenatore Tim Biru-Hitam, Jose Mourinho, seperti dilansir situs Football Italia.

Arsitek Milan, Carlo Ancelotti, secara jelas juga sudah menyerahkan scudetto kepada Inter. Menurut Carletto, target I Rossoneri tidak pernah berubah. Mereka hanya ingin finis di peringkat 3 besar dan meraih tiket otomatis ke babak utama Liga Champion.

"Scudetto sudah hilang dari genggaman kami sebelum partai melawan Juventus. Masih ada tiga partai lagi dan kami hanya membutuhkan satu kemenangan untuk memastikan finis di 3 besar. Saya pikir kami akan bisa melakukannya," sebut Ancelotti kepada Datasport. (Dwi Widijatmiko)